Life lessons I learned from my twin toddlers – Reverse Parenting

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When I became a mother, I had so many things in my mind which I learned from my parents and wanted to pass on to my tiny tots too. From singing, dancing, reading to values, manners, morals and gradually the life’s practical lessons like dressing up, tying shoelaces, combing hair, saving money and many more.

However, soon I realized it was a role reversal. I was learning something from them each and every day. They taught me to see the life through their little eyes and surprisingly I grew up to be a better person with them as I re-learned many forgotten lessons of life with a new perspective.

So, here goes the list of lessons I comprehended:

1. No means No –

My duo would always be clear in saying No if they are reluctant to something. No matter what, they will not give in if they don’t want to eat or play or do any activity. I feel agitated at times but then I find this is a good habit as they will be clear in their mind since the beginning.

Saying NO was not always easy for me but once I actually started practicing it at the workplace and at home for the things that don’t work for me, it helped me. I could save time now and can focus on the better things in life. I feel relaxed as there is no pressure of doing anything unwanted.

2. Letting things go –

I think the best learning I have from my kids is, forgetting things quickly and keeping no grudges. There are days when my patience grows thin and I shout at them or get angry at them and soon after it, my heart fills with guilt for hurting my little hearts. But within minutes they hug me and love me the same way as before. They forget everything and only love prevails. Then I realize how easy it is to just forget and forgive people who have ever hurt you and trust me, this magnanimous attitude gives immense peace of mind.

3. Laugh for no reason –

As Charlie Chaplin said “A day without laughter is a day wasted” but we seem to have forgotten this in our hectic and stressful lives. We look only the miseries and failures and overlook the accomplishments. It’s ok not to brag your achievements all the time but at the same time don’t be in self-depreciation mode either. Try to see the world from a kid’s perspective and you will find endless reasons to smile, laugh and be happy.

When a child’s giggle can make everyone around happy then think how much different and elated place this world would be if we all start following this small but powerful learning.

4. Love selflessly –

In this fake world, it’s difficult to love and be loved. My innocent souls taught me how to love selflessly. Without any expectations, without any benefits. Life is surely worth living when you are benevolent.

5. Celebrating small success –

My kids would clap even on their minutest achievements like arranging the blocks in perfect order, singing a rhyme enacting the way we taught them, keeping their shoes at the place, putting their dirty clothes in the washing machine before taking shower. They find pride in doing such chores on their own. They celebrate it by being their own heroes of the game.

But, how tough is it for us to celebrate the milestones in our life. It surely boosts our confidence and motivates us to do better and better till we reach the zenith.

6. Cherish the little joys –

Yet another wonderful learning. Kids find joy in anything and everything. Though I still wonder what humor they get on seeing people in the mall, other kids playing in the park or even a doctor examining other patients. They find silliness everywhere and create their own happiness in their small world. A piece of chocolate can make them equally happy as Dad coming home from work. But we, adults, are not satisfied with even the biggest of the things we own. Life would have been much more beautiful if we start cherishing those little joys around us too. I do, it’s your turn now.

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October 13, 2017 12:54 pm

its beautiful as i already told u but just dr d sake of commenting here

Sonia Chatterjee
September 5, 2018 1:31 pm

I am learning from my toddler every day. It’s amazing how the world can be when you look at it through the wonder struck eyes of a toddler. Your writing resonates with me on all the levels.

Dr Shivangi
September 5, 2018 2:39 pm

I absolutely agree with these points Vartika. Glad you took an initiative to write about them.

Anshu Bhojnagarwala
September 5, 2018 3:33 pm

I agree with you, Vartika! Kids do teach us valuable lessons! Those lessons that we forgot in the process of growing up! 🙂

Gurjeet chhabra
Gurjeet chhabra
September 5, 2018 4:57 pm

I can relate it to me. I learn a lot from my kids. Patience and really i love the point kids forget what happened in few minutes earlier and become friends again


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