No I don’t need to have fair skin to look and feel beautiful. Stop Body shaming!

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In this society where the criteria of beauty have always been fair skin, I also fell a victim to it.
Since childhood, I have been listening to endless suggestions and comments like “Use fair & lovely regularly”, “Chandan face pack is good for skin tone like you”, “besan ka ubtan will make you fair without fail, use it daily”, “You should bleach your skin” and what not. I realized people can go to any level to look fairer without giving a second thought that it might affect their skin quality because of the harsh chemicals. All they want is a beautiful, fair, glowing girl. Even the matrimonial ads say “Seeking fair girl”. You will never find dark skinned poster babies. Pregnant ladies are advised to eat some particular foods to give birth to a fair child.
Being a wheatish girl, I also had developed a feeling of inferiority complex from every single person who was fairer than me. Never I liked to get pics clicked in the dark or with fair people as everyone used to tell me “It will come out as black and white”, I used to choose clothes very cautiously so that I don’t look darker. Gradually, I started avoiding going out in sun. People used to ask where she is gone if we were in a dark room or theatre. I used to laugh with all of them but within my heart, it was humiliating.
In initial years of life, I never gave a flip about how I looked and I was a carefree girl but gradually as I grew older, I started noticing the comments of everyone, I started losing confidence. As a young girl, those silly comments had really brought me down. All those stupid things people had said hurt me to an extent that I started seeing myself in such a twisted way, the world sees me and which I would never ever wish for someone else.
In the quest to lighten my skin color, I tried all the beauty soaps and creams available in the market but realized nothing worked for me. I don’t blame those ubtans or products because I did not have enough patience to complete their course and wanted to get the result overnight. So, finally, I discovered that all those soaps and creams might get browner with my application but they can’t do any good to me. It is when I stopped focusing on it as I knew I couldn’t do much about it.
(Confession: A part of me still wanted to look fair)
But over the years, I realized it’s about the inner beauty and not the external one. To me, the most beautiful person on this Earth was my father, who was also a dark complexioned person but I had never seen the more beautiful person inside out than him. After a lot of introspection, I asked myself “Do I really need to have fair skin to look beautiful? Papa is dark too but he has a heart of gold, everyone loves him. Then why do I want white skin? Why I am running after it for years? When I treat him as my role model then why to change the way I look? Why can’t I be happy in my own skin? It is when I noticed my strengths and virtues and really started loving myself.

Colorism is a growing disease which discriminates against individuals on the basis of their complexion. We are embedded in a sick mentality that “You need to have a fair complexion to look pretty”. Indian media and Bollywood has surely added more onto this delusion by promoting more and more fairness products showcasing a girl who is not getting married because of her dark skin and when she uses such whitewashing products, she gets her prince charming OR even worse, she gets a job only after getting fair. There are many Bollywood actor and actresses with dark skin who underwent beauty treatments to become fairer setting an example for this society and promoting this fallacy.

We should learn to love people for their soul and heart which actually makes one beautiful and not the skin color. Time takes the toll of beautiful skin, it gets rashes and wrinkles but internal beauty never dies. We as a society have to stop shaming people and putting them down for the things that make them unique. It could be anything – skin color, voice, dressing sense, lifestyle anything.
This message is for all the beautiful people out there. You are beautiful in your own way, stop seeing yourself with others eyes and believe in your inner beauty. Love yourself the way you are and the world will love you too. You can conquer the world with your uniqueness and not being fair.
Today, I happily say Yes, I’m beautifully brown!!!
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February 12, 2018 4:16 pm

Well said! beauty is only skin deep what matters is the light from the heart!

Lee Dunn
February 12, 2018 4:30 pm

You are.

Zankhana Goyal
February 12, 2018 5:41 pm


Zankhana Goyal
February 12, 2018 5:41 pm


February 13, 2018 12:17 pm

You are beautiful as you are. Genuinely. I think your complexion is gorgeous.
But you are right – it should not matter anyway.

Megha's World
February 13, 2018 1:13 pm

A very well thought you have said its very prevalent in Indian societies..Hoping it to change it for better.I guess today more people are realizing that beauty is only skin deep and its the brain which matters and along with your inner beauty. Anybody can look presentable these days by following few styling tips but its your inner personal which shines and works longer.

February 13, 2018 1:44 pm

There still is a lot of bias & prejudice in our society. We need to take a stand against such beliefs. You have managed to do that. This is a well written post. ?

February 16, 2018 3:20 am
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

Let’s hope that happens. ?

February 15, 2018 5:33 pm

It’s good that our generation is going beyond the idea of fair is beauty and has become much more broad minded in general.
You are gorgeous btw❤

February 16, 2018 6:17 am

We need to look fair to look fair, not beautiful.

Balaji Ks
February 16, 2018 4:27 pm

Girl’s Beauty is calculated by heart not by skin colour…# Real Gentlemen Calculation #

February 17, 2018 12:33 pm

So nicely said..I can relate to this so much..i was body shamed as a kid because of my weight??

February 17, 2018 12:42 pm
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

Yeah so true. Hopefully someday people will understand. But I doubt it would happen

Ushnish the Crown
February 17, 2018 12:44 pm

Beautiful ??

Ushnish the Crown
February 17, 2018 12:51 pm
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

You’re welcome Vatrika?

Somali K Chakrabarti
February 18, 2018 7:21 am

No, you don’t. You are beautiful the way you look. 🙂

February 21, 2018 8:20 am

I’m 16. My skin tone is kinda wheatish. I was 5, when for the very first time in kindergarten someone told me that I was “black” and no one liked black girls. Being a gullible little girl that i was, i went home to my mum and asked her, “mom how are you so fair and I’m not?” i could see it in her eyes. She was both, shocked and surprised. She held me gently, while the universe was weighing my little bones down with insecurity. She told me that i was beautiful. Not in a way that wax models… Read more »

February 22, 2018 2:23 pm

I think you are perfectly fine the way you are, like everyone else is. If everyone looked the same, then what would be the difference between humans and factory made robots :). But I understand your struggle while growing up. However, I found later in life that this craziness is more in the North of India than in the South. In South people are generally relaxed about it. Another thing is that like in India, this longing for fair skin is also in Korea and China – where they are already quite fair, at least by Indian standards. May be… Read more »

Surender Negi
February 26, 2018 4:19 am

WOW !! Now you want to divide this behavior into South Vs North India. Ironically, I find that South Indians are more concern about color. You can see this reflection into South Indians movies, always a fair face hero, fair face heroine.

I would suggest you to visit UPm Bihar, Gujraat and Rajasthan. You will found more brown people than south and they are similarly crazy about fair skin. So, Pls let’s not says “We South Indians have less problem than North Indians”. Its another kind of colorism.

Thanks !!

February 24, 2018 11:22 pm

What wonderful words! “We should learn to love people for their soul and heart which actually makes one beautiful and not the skin colour. Time takes the toll of beautiful skin, it’s gets rashes and wrinkles but internal beauty never dies.” Society is so critical and we are constantly judged and battered with media messages that run contrary to what reality is. No wonder so many of us feel we don’t measure up. As a person with fair skin, I can say that it isn’t the be all and end all, for sure. I am very pale as is my… Read more »

February 25, 2018 2:51 am
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

Underneath we are all people! That is important.

Surender Negi
February 26, 2018 4:14 am

Wow !! Really good blog about how body shaming is part of our society. Keep writing such inspirational blogs.

Surender Negi
February 26, 2018 4:20 am

Reblogged this on Spiritual Consciousness and commented:
This is Story of Color craziness of India.

Its Kelle's Space
March 1, 2018 8:59 am

Such a powerful post! I love it!
Beauty definitely is skin deep, you’re right
Kelle –

Its Kelle's Space
March 1, 2018 9:42 pm
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

You’re welcome!
I’ve followed you back

Srishti RajeevMenda
September 20, 2019 7:09 pm

These facepacks and creams have a purpose of clensing the skin, automatically your skin glows. They are good as pure cleaning agents, wonder why the fair tag is attached. Interesting read! And I really liked the cover pic.

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