What’s your individual contribution to stopping rapes and other crimes against women??? #Superbloggerchallenge #Instacuppa

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Last few days have been quite disturbing, reading about the shameful news, rapes and brutal crimes against girls and women across the country. It has filled every woman’s heart with a fear that “I could be the next” or “What if I was at her place?”. We have become even more concerned and protective towards our daughters, mothers, sisters and secretly praying that they don’t go out at all.

Another inflaming matter to worry about is that the people don’t understand the sensitivity of the case and just whataboutering, connecting the case with other angles like religion, politics and what not. Media is sharing the old videos and photos of the Kathua victim. Think of what her parents and family must be going through while digging her pics and videos for you.

For your channel, its TRP but for her family, it was their hearts which have been crushed so brutally. Isn’t it inhuman on our part? I mean a little girl had gone through the worst nightmare and you are raising such topics during the trying times. Really?

Lately, I saw a post blaming a famous Bollywood actress for the revealing clothes she was wearing during a photoshoot. People, do you still think it’s about the clothes? If nudity has anything to do with rapes then females covered in sarees, suits or even hijabs would have never been the victims. And what about these little kids? Are they exposing themselves to the pedophiles?

They don’t even know the meaning of the word Rape. And if you still talk about clothing, can you please tell why we get to hear little boys being molested? YES, there had been such unfortunate cases too. In what way were they dressing up wrong? It’s all in the sick minds of the people and this dirty mentality needs to be changed and not the clothes we wear.

Even worse, there have been posts about defending the accused with vindications offered like “It was a temple with regular visitors so how can she be kept hostage there” and “How can a father ask his son to gang rape” and other such utter nonsense. Political parties got a burning topic and are playing the blame game here. They can change currency overnight but can’t bring about a robust law for the safety of females so expecting anything from them is useless. But what are we doing as an individual?

Instead of focusing on such futile matters, why don’t we start introspecting and do our bit for the society? We are shaken to the core and our system does not seem to change so it’s time for us to get up and kick some butts if anything is done wrong with us or in front of us. It’s time we should stop giving GYAN to our daughters on how to dress up, where and when to go, how to behave with the in-laws when to marry etc.

It’s time we don’t let a man touch any female in the buses or trains, no matter whether she is known to us or a stranger. She’s a woman and that’s enough to take a stand! Its time every girl should learn self-defense techniques. It’s time to stop treating pink as girly and blue as virile. It is time for raising our daughters with equal feathers in her heart and stop setting boundaries for her. It’s time to stop expecting your daughter in law to be a Tarla Dalal. Its ok if your Raja Beta cooks dinner if your bahu comes home late from work.

It’s time not to tolerate any joke or statement that puts women down. It’s time we stop saying “Ultimately, Shadi hi karni hai kya karogi aur padh likh ke” and force our daughters to get married. Its time to stop saying “Stop crying like a girl”. Its time to break the stereotypes set by our society and introduce our sons to the household chores and kitchen. Its time to educate your sons to respect females and if they cant, better be prepared for the wrath coming their way. Its time to make our sons understand that “NO is a NO”.

It’s time to stop stating “Choodiyan pehen lo” as a weakness or shame. I have seen many educated, well to do families differentiating between a girl and boy child. This should be stopped. The root cause of this monstrous disease is unfair and unequal “upbringing” which should be the same for both the genders.

Remember, learning starts at home only and the seeds sown in the childhood always persist in our kids minds. So, raise equally strong kids and don’t let your daughter feel in any way, she’s lesser than your son, physically or mentally. I am using my pen power to do my bit and making sure my daughters are raised as strong women of the society who would always speak up for the wrong. I am doing my bit, are you?

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Dr Roshan R (@pythoroshan)
April 20, 2018 5:52 am

I totally agree with your views on this forever hot topic… we keep allowing the conversation to divert away from what should matter to irrelevant ‘what abouts’ and all that nonsense.

Namratha Varadharajan
April 20, 2018 2:38 pm

It is time! We have a lot to do to change our society and ourselves. Better get going?

April 20, 2018 2:56 pm

Though provoking post Vartika! Yes it’s time to give right upbringing to the sons for it is them who can actually KEEP the world worth living. It will surely take time but atleast daughters of future would breath an air of freedom.

April 20, 2018 5:53 pm

Great post . It’s time we teach our sons the respect a woman deserves . It is time we raise our voice if we see any woman being touched or assaulted . Let’s do our bit

Tina Sequeira
April 21, 2018 1:44 pm

The last few weeks have been very depressing…Asifa´s rape especially was a new level of low. I hope that justice is served. Inviting you to read my Week 10 post for #Superbloggerchallenge2018 here:

April 23, 2018 9:30 am

I resonate with ur thoughts whole heartedly. This is everyone’s problem n we all need to work towards it in our capacity. Like we bloggers write about it and spread awareness etc.
I am with u in this battle ?

Pls read my week10 post for #superbloggerchallenge2018 #instacuppa

April 23, 2018 10:33 am

I’m in total agreement with your post, the basic psychology of “girl being a girl and boy is a boy” has to be broken by proper upbringing else we’ll always be swimming with stones weighing us down. #superbloggerchallenge2018. #instacuppa

April 24, 2018 4:17 pm

This is something which needs to be discussed openly. We should make people educated specially in tribal and rural areas.
Do express your opinion on my this week post

April 25, 2018 9:12 am
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

So true , these people somehow cover up their wrong actions and hence things go unnoticed.

Surbhi Prapanna
April 27, 2018 8:20 pm

Yes! it is so sad..and disturbing too..being a mommy of 2 daughters I feel the same way as you do..we have to raise our daughters as strong women. and these criminals should get strong punishment for their crime. #Superbloggerchallnege2018

April 30, 2018 2:37 am

It is time we acknowledged that rape is done by people with sick minds. It is a crime of violence and hate.

April 30, 2018 4:53 pm

For me i do not think clothes does have anything to do with it. If I have integrity and self respect no matter how less clothes a girl wear will not arouse me to rape her. But if my character has problem then no matter how decently/ modestly a girls behaves i will be an animal and abuse her.

Ellen Hawley
May 6, 2018 4:01 pm

We have a long way to go, but it gives me hope when I hear people talking about it. Silence is our enemy.

Ellen Hawley
May 7, 2018 2:05 pm
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

Indeed. Silence is the enemy of us all.

Dr B
May 21, 2018 12:42 pm

Firstly thank you for following me, which made me come to your blog where I found this post. You have written about the issue so well and it is a topic my wife (Dr C) and I feel so strongly about. We found similar attitudes in Nepal, and even here in the U.K. where recently there have been reported cases of 5000+ FGM but no prosecution! I will also be blogging tomorrow about an Iraqi Muslim Doctor not prosecuted for sexual harassment because he “culturally didn’t understand! Here in the West we have feminists who protest in their millions agains… Read more »

Dr B
May 21, 2018 2:30 pm
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

But what is the solution in YOUR opinion? Writing a blog is not enough!

Dr B
May 21, 2018 2:42 pm
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

Actually I disagree, it needs a violent struggle. In the U.K. recently an old man’s house was burgled by two young thugs. One of them was stabbed with a screw driver by the old man who was 75 years old. He’s a hero! Women in your country should begin by carrying knives!

May 21, 2018 2:24 pm

Maturity being taught to young boys and young men, when a woman decides her answer is no, it is no, don’t even touch her after she says no.

May 21, 2018 2:24 pm

Reblogged this on Truth Troubles.

June 20, 2018 7:17 am

You are totally right! Encouraging girls and women to learn martial arts techniques for self defence is a really good idea and can make a huge difference. I’m rather recently married and my wife is a martial arts and self defence instructor. She has really opened my eyes for how positive and empowering it can be for women to acquire this kind of skills. And inspired by her, as you can see, I even started blogging about it!
It’s an important issue.

June 20, 2018 9:21 am
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

Oh thanks so much for saying that!
I hope you like the content of my blog too!

June 20, 2018 9:26 am
Reply to  Vartikasdiary

Haha thank you! ?

June 20, 2018 3:28 pm

Yes you are right. The seed is sown in childhood.

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