Letter to my twincesses on the first day of school

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My little darlings,

Last 2.5 years passed like a whirlwind. The feeling of holding you for the first time is still fresh in my mind when you were born so tiny and I had to buy preemie clothes to doll dress you. I blinked and you started walking, I blinked and you started talking, I blinked and you grew up and now it’s time for me to share you with the rest of the world.

Today was the first day of your school and you both were in great spirits. As you are big girls now (as you think so) and embark on this new journey of life, your Mamma wants to tell you something, something that will help you not just today but forever in your life, no matter whether Mamma is with you or not.

You know, I and your Papa were planning to send you to school for the last few months and today when the day arrived, I felt as if I am yet not prepared. Last two days passed in severe anxiety thinking about how things are going to be. While I immensely enjoyed shopping for you, the tiny shoes, cute summer dresses, clips and bows for your curly hair, back of the mind, I was very nervous and every now and then my vision got blurred due to the tears in my eyes.

I never felt so restless like this before but then your Papa was there to uplift my mood every time I felt low. He was very normal all these days and I was secretly angry at him that how can he be so cool as a cucumber when he loves you both more than anything in this world. But he is he and I truly wish you both inherit this “NOT EMOTIONAL” trait from him as I don’t want to pass on my over emotional attribute to you.

So while I was cooking lunch and doing other preparations for your big day today morning, Papa quietly came and said to me, “Now, even I feel uneasy. They are so little, how will they manage?”. And I just smiled without uttering anything. Father’s love is such. There is an invisible Umbilical cord that connects you both to him. So, my little loves, my first lesson to you based on this instance is:

1. Never judge anyone:

As I just told you about Papa, despite of loving you the most, he was hard as a coconut from outside. But his heart was full of cheese and love which was hidden. So, my babies, always remember, what you see upfront may not be always true, there is always another side of a coin. People have different ways of expressing their feelings, so never judge anyone come what may. There will be situations in life when you will come across people who may not share pleasantries with you but never mind. You don’t know what battle they are fighting or how was their mood when they encountered you. So, learn not to judge and be kind, given any situation.

2. Don’t Expect anything from anybody:

Girls, treat this as a mantra in your life and you will never be disappointed or sad. I know it’s not easy but not impossible. The early you start practising it, the sooner you will learn it. You will fall many times while playing but you have to get up and brush yourself on your own rather than expecting your Mamma, Papa, Teacher, friend etc. to come and help you. Gradually in life, there will be many such instances when you would feel bogged down with the situation but you need to help yourself instead of waiting for anybody to come and uplift your mood.

However, you will always have your safe refuge at home in my and Papa’s hearts and we will always be there as a rock for you to help you face any hurdles of life but you should not hurt yourself if you find yourself alone in any battle. Remember give selflessly, love abundantly and help as per your capability but never expect anything in return because then its not help its reciprocation. Work on improving yourself, compete with your better self daily rather than expecting the other person to behave the way you want. So, no expectation and no resentment.

3. Never fear failures:

Unless you fail, you won’t learn and improve. Failures are equally important in life as success is. Never stop trying. Give your best shot in anything and everything you do and success will follow one or the other day. So, don’t worry about it and focus on your work. Raise a toast to your success but celebrate your failures too as they have a vital role in taking you to the zenith. They teach you the lessons, the mistakes which you should not repeat in the next attempts. Learn from your failures and do better next time.

4. There are no shortcuts: 

You must have heard me and Papa talking “Let’s take a shortcut route to the park or school or any other place” but remember there are shortcuts to routes only but not to life. You need to cross the entire road to reach to your destination. Hard work, smart work, determination, focus, positive attitude, honesty are the tools which will help you in the journey but you have to climb the mountain on your own.

5. No job is small:

Your Mamma learned this lesson very late in life after moving abroad and now she’s not ashamed in getting her hands dirty in any of the chores. Sweeping the floor or throwing the garbage or mowing the lawns – nothing is small. Feel pride and happiness in doing your tasks. Even at the workplace or at your school or any restaurant, be it a peon or watchman or guard or the waiter taking the order or the owner of the Company, you need to treat everyone with equality as they are doing their respective jobs and deserve all the respect and honour.

7. Take your stand and never support wrong:

This is one thing which is very important for every individual. I want to raise you both as strong and smart women. I want you always speak up for yourself, your wishes your desires, your goals, and dreams. If you take a path, stand by it and don’t deviate just because someone doesn’t want you to be on it. Remember, there is a thin line between taking a stand and being rebel. When you are unable to justify your actions but still revolting for something, it becomes rebellious.

Be clear in mind what you actually want and choose your path wisely. Listen to elders as they will guide you and share their life experiences with you and after analysing the complete situation, decide what you need to do. Be reasonable, be practical and chase your dreams. Secondly, don’t accept anything that is wrong not just with you but with anyone, known or stranger. I am not teaching you to poke your nose in everybody’s matter but if you see someone suffering in front of you, you know what you need to do.

8. Communication is the key: 

Always remember, Mamma Papa love you a lot and will always be there for you as your trusty friends with sympathetic ears for all your problems or even if you make any mistake. Never stop sharing your doubts, problems, happiness, insecurities, failures with us. Speaking up and communicating make things much easier rather than concealing it under the carpet.

We can work out any problem by discussing it, no matter how big and unwelcoming the issue looks like. There is always a solution but hiding your mistakes because of the fear and running away from it will never help. In the same way, if you have a disconnect with anyone, shed your inhibitions, go, talk and clear your differences instead of bottling up and making things complicated.

9. Be brave, be strong:

My girls, I want both of you to be strong not just physically but mentally also. Have the courage, power and capability to defend yourself if someone tries to mess up with you physically. Be strong enough to let go the negativity around you without affecting you. Be brave to challenge the challenges of life and accept the hardships that may come your way. I want to raise you both as emotionally strong women. This doesn’t mean you can’t cry or feel upset when things don’t work for you. Crying is absolutely fine and it doesn’t make you weak but don’t be an emotional fool at the same time. Be smart so that no one can take undue advantage of your goodness.

10. Never stop learning:

There is no age to learn or start any new thing if you have a desire and honest intention. Always choose “Still lot to be learned” over “I know it all” attitude. Be a good listener.  It will always help you.

11. Be responsible citizens: 

Girls, being a good daughter, good sister, a good friend is wonderful but now as you grow up, you should understand your responsibility as a good citizen too. I feel proud to see that both of you never throw garbage on the roads but in dustbins and point out if you find any wrapper or any stuff on the road as dirty. I can see the roots of a sensible person developing but along with this, I want you to learn a few more things like saving power, water, light, paper, electricity. Crossing the road only on green light, giving seat to elders or physically challenged people.

I know you are very little to understand these things right now but learning starts from the beginning and I’m sure gradually you will be able to hear what your Mamma wants to teach you both.

So, my little babies, my queens, the endless opportunities are waiting for you in the beautiful world outside. Just go and conquer.

Love always,


This post is a part of Blog Birthday celebrations contest hosted by Zainab and Geethica


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June 12, 2018 5:01 am

Wonderful read!

Bhavna Saurabh Sharma
June 12, 2018 8:13 am

I am so proud of you girls <3
Rock the world

Ben Aqiba
June 12, 2018 9:22 am

This is so wonderful,great tips. We must repeat them to our kids every day !

Mahati ramya adivishnu
June 12, 2018 6:20 pm

Very important tips Vritika. I can completely relate to your post. Even my son will be starting his school this year and I am also anxious, excited and scared all at the same time.

June 13, 2018 2:48 am

Through this poat, I re-lived my days when my daughter started pre-school. I had a bag of mixed feelings.
Loved the lessons you have conveyed theough your post. I am sure when the girls wioukd be able to understand the deep meaning behind these lessons, they would know how lucky they are to have a mamma like you…

Midlife Smarts
June 15, 2018 3:22 pm

So sweet and wise. Lovely post.

June 16, 2018 4:37 am

Beautiful letter to your daughters. They will cherish this letter when they grow up. The first day of school is always nerve wrecking, it’s great that you turned those emotions into something positive.

June 18, 2018 9:43 am

Wow… Such a good piece of advice for young girls. I could feel the emotions behind the words Vartika. Congratulation on the first day of twins in school. I am sure they’ll come out as wonderful human beings.

June 19, 2018 10:51 am

Beautifully expressed emotions. This is just the beginning of their life outside home and I am sure they will remember all these points for a lifetime. Loads of love to both of them. 🙂

June 20, 2018 1:52 pm

Such a sweet and heartfelt post. It is indeed a very difficult time when kids leave your nest and learn to fly. Good lessons to teach them.

Rachna Huria
Rachna Huria
July 10, 2018 3:09 am
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Beautifully written and conveyed philosophy of life…..I’m sure your daughters will understand it all in no time n grow up to be beautiful n gentle souls just like their Mom. God bless.

July 4, 2018 3:31 pm

This is an emotional piece of talk between a mom and her daughters. These are life lessons that they will cherish life-long and will be always useful to them.
Thank you for linking up with us.

Sonia Chatterjee
October 8, 2018 11:47 am

This is a straight from the heart post. You can create a mail id for them and send them this. Give them the password to their mail when they turn 18 or are old enough to read and appreciate your feelings. I have been doing it for my three year old ever since he turned 1.5 yr old.

October 8, 2018 8:44 pm

What lovely wisdom you have shared with your little onea.Loved the one about expexations.Tough one

October 9, 2018 5:23 am

That’s a tall order for almost three year olds to fulfill! I know you have to start early to reinforce concepts but you can start with baby steps !

October 9, 2018 9:43 am

A rather heavy and loaded letter for your hardly 3 year olds. But yes, good habits have to be imbibed from the start. Kudos to you for sharing this letter with us.

October 13, 2018 5:12 am

That’s such a beautiful letter. They’re all valuable lessons but tough to follow, isn’t it? I suspect they’re going to need reminding time and again. Those first few days are so so hard – as hard for the parents as for the babies.

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