A word that brings a mixed bag of emotions in one’s mind. Blessing, joy, selfless love, anxiety, stress, mess, sleepless nights, and whatnot. Once we enter this phase, life takes a U-Turn and changes to every possible extent. There are days of frustration and the new mums feel like running away to the Himalayas abandoning everything. I am no different.
In the last three years of Mommying, a zombie-looking mum in me looked for an escape many times but no luck. Every time I looked at those tiny faces whom I made, my heart melted and I was tugged back to my duty.
I would be lying if I say that things haven’t changed or improved over these years. BUT one thing that I have realized during this journey is that it is never going to be easy. The challenges will always be there, only the level and degree will vary.
Earlier it was putting them to sleep, now it is potty training, soon it will be teaching them to read and write and down the years, handling their teen tantrums.
While I clean the mess of the ransacked house they create daily OR wipe the scribbled sofas and walls OR act as a referee to their fights, I have my meltdown moments too. Then, parenting doesn’t seem to be a blessing anymore. Instead, it feels that we have jumped into a pool of challenges willingly.
Before relocating to Poland with my infant twin daughters, I formulated many plans in my mind on how to handle the kids all by myself. How will I set up their play area so that I’m always aware of their whereabouts. How will I make their sleep scene, their feedings, and so on. But after coming here, it was a completely different story. All my plans were trashed as I found myself going with the flow every time.
A few of my friends advised me to practice meditation and I always wondered that with two jumping jacks around 24/7, how can one meditate? OK if they meant when the kids were asleep, then either I was almost dead and sleepy or preferred finishing household chores. No energy or patience or concentration for meditation as there is always a chance for one of my tiny humans to start beeping again anytime.
Over the years I have realized there is neither any full proof global parenting formula nor mantra that works for every mum. You have to analyze and implement what works best for and your family in that particular situation.
In my case, when the situation is out of control and I lose it totally, the best parenting mantra that comes to my rescue is chanting, “AAL IS WELL, AAL IS WELL”, THIS TOO SHALL PASS”. I drink a glass of water, close my eyes for a minute, take a deep breath to calm myself and say aloud this mantra a few times to re-attain my sanity.
I remind myself, “It was your decision to be a mother and now when you have two little jewels around you, embrace the mess, soak in the glory of these moments as this phase will pass soon. They will soon be all by themselves and don’t need you more and the day won’t be far when they will fly away to chase their dreams and you will be an empty nester”.
As I join them back, we three roll in our own bubble and soon I chant my mantra again, “AAL IS WELL, AAL IS WELL, THIS TOO SHALL PASS”
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