My mantra to sustain on those rough & tough days of parenting
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My mantra to sustain on those rough & tough days of parenting

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Parenting!

A word that brings a mixed bag of emotions in one’s mind. Blessing, joy, selfless love, anxiety, stress, mess, sleepless nights, and whatnot. Once we enter this phase, life takes a U-Turn and changes to every possible extent. There are days of frustration and the new mums feel like running away to the Himalayas abandoning everything. I am no different.

In the last three years of Mommying, a zombie-looking mum in me looked for an escape many times but no luck. Every time I looked at those tiny faces whom I made, my heart melted and I was tugged back to my duty.

I would be lying if I say that things haven’t changed or improved over these years. BUT one thing that I have realized during this journey is that it is never going to be easy. The challenges will always be there, only the level and degree will vary.

Earlier it was putting them to sleep, now it is potty training, soon it will be teaching them to read and write and down the years, handling their teen tantrums.

While I clean the mess of the ransacked house they create daily OR wipe the scribbled sofas and walls OR act as a referee to their fights, I have my meltdown moments too. Then, parenting doesn’t seem to be a blessing anymore. Instead, it feels that we have jumped into a pool of challenges willingly.

Before relocating to Poland with my infant twin daughters, I formulated many plans in my mind on how to handle the kids all by myself. How will I set up their play area so that I’m always aware of their whereabouts. How will I make their sleep scene, their feedings, and so on. But after coming here, it was a completely different story. All my plans were trashed as I found myself going with the flow every time.

A few of my friends advised me to practice meditation and I always wondered that with two jumping jacks around 24/7, how can one meditate? OK if they meant when the kids were asleep, then either I was almost dead and sleepy or preferred finishing household chores. No energy or patience or concentration for meditation as there is always a chance for one of my tiny humans to start beeping again anytime.

Over the years I have realized there is neither any full proof global parenting formula nor mantra that works for every mum. You have to analyze and implement what works best for and your family in that particular situation.

In my case, when the situation is out of control and I lose it totally, the best parenting mantra that comes to my rescue is chanting, “AAL IS WELL, AAL IS WELL”, THIS TOO SHALL PASS”. I drink a glass of water, close my eyes for a minute, take a deep breath to calm myself and say aloud this mantra a few times to re-attain my sanity.

I remind myself, “It was your decision to be a mother and now when you have two little jewels around you, embrace the mess, soak in the glory of these moments as this phase will pass soon. They will soon be all by themselves and don’t need you more and the day won’t be far when they will fly away to chase their dreams and you will be an empty nester”.

As I join them back, we three roll in our own bubble and soon I chant my mantra again, “AAL IS WELL, AAL IS WELL, THIS TOO SHALL PASS”

This post is a part of Momology blog train hosted by Thoughts by Geethica, SlimexpectationsMummasaurus and Truly Yours Roma

sponsored by FirstCry Intellikit, Instacuppa, Diet Funda, Hugs n tugs, Tina Basu, Unorthodoxpeeps, Lotus Herbals baby and Shumee toys.

I would like to thank a fabulous blogger, Ashvini for introducing me in the Momology Blog Train. You can read more about her work at https://www.fitbewell.com. Further, I would like to introduce another brilliant writer, Monika who blogs at http://www.alubhujia.com

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Neha Tambe
February 11, 2019 12:57 pm

Haha!I know that feeling. I too had plans of going back to full-time work 6 months after my kid! That was 9 years back :p but yeah all is well does help!

upasna
February 11, 2019 1:26 pm

Motherhood is a tough game. While I am away from Kids in the office, I want to be with them and while I am with them, I wish to hide away when they make me crazy. But its a lovely feeling.

Alpana Deo
February 11, 2019 2:14 pm

I believe in going with the flow. we decide something and things go the other way. And we are again back to square one. It happens in day-to-day things as well. I can totally understand your situation when shifted to Poland.
#Momology #MothersGurukulreads

Preeti Chauhan
February 11, 2019 3:03 pm

So true – parenting always has been and will be challenging only the types of challenges will change.The best strategy is to do your best and stay positive.

Madhu
February 11, 2019 7:30 pm

All is well, All is well, this is the best mantra in all situations of life. I am sure you would have faced every situation with patience and calmness ! Great writeup!

Yogita Amit Joshi
February 11, 2019 7:45 pm

Motherhood is really tough on we moms. When we r around kids we want to do job or go out and when we are out we are thinkinh about them.. I can totally relate with u

Zainab Raazi
Zainab Raazi
February 11, 2019 8:03 pm

Actually couldn’t agree more! The intensity of the challenge differs but challenges are always there.
Thanks for linking up with #Momology

Anita
Anita
February 11, 2019 9:37 pm

All is well and this will indeed pass. Take care in thinking positive that always helps

Jhilmil
February 12, 2019 5:30 am

That’s so true Vartika, even I believe the same that all is well and move ahead, even though I’m always in a messed up situation.

Preety tiwari
February 12, 2019 8:05 am

Hehe… Even I can completely relate with your post. I love the Aall is well wala Funda, I also used to close my eyes for a while when there are so much rush of thoughts in my mind.

Surbhi Prapanna
February 12, 2019 8:06 am

Loved you mantra dear, “All is well..” and I believe this mantra works not only in handling in bad parenting days but it works great for handling all tough life situations. while reading your post, I had recalled all those moments when my elder one was 3 and the little one was 1, it was the hardest time for me as a mother, and I had faced all those hard parenting situations that you had mentioned. now, all is well, both are big enough and I feel myself so blessed to be a mom of 2 lovely kids.

Mahati ramya adivishnu
February 12, 2019 5:38 pm

Yeah! All is well and this too shall pass.

Sapna Bansal
February 13, 2019 1:57 pm

All is well , all is well. I totally agree with you

anupriya
February 13, 2019 5:56 pm

Such a heart felt post sweetie. I could feel and live through all your words. Yes I do manage to meditate once every fortnight, when the stars seem favorable for me (read kids are asleep, home chores non-pending and blogging schedule updated)

Princy Khurana
February 16, 2019 6:30 pm

All is well !! oh yes, I think all moms should write this down and put this on their walls in front of them. this can take us through those rough times #Momology @clanpedia

Ashvini Naik
February 17, 2019 10:55 pm

Oh yeah, Vartika. “Aal is well” has been a talisman not only with parenting but is indeed a major life lesson too. Isn’t it?

Yes, parenting is hard. But like you say, these kids wouldn’t be kids anymore & we’d miss these years very soon.

So cheers to such mad parenting moments to come!

Mann
February 18, 2019 3:36 pm

Such an honest post Vartika. Perenting challenging really don’t end, they just change faces. We’ll do fine. ?

Aesha Shah
February 20, 2019 8:02 am

I guess you are right. It’s only when we react immediately situations go out of control. If we take a deep breathe think that it’s our choice to be a mother then the best way is to embrace it and make decisions patiently.

Priyal
September 17, 2019 1:33 pm

This post is so related to me and I am literally enjoying it with ups and downs in my life

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